Timeline Therapy (Part 1)

Timeline Therapy (Part 1)

(PART 1)

(The following is written by Tad James Creator of Time Line Therapy)

Since the introduction of the Line Therapy® Techniques in 1988 in the book Time Line Therapy and the Basis of Personality, there has been, not only excitement about the techniques themselves, but also major interest by the psychotherapeutic community and a rather rapid adoption of the process by people actively involved in seeing clients daily for various reasons. In the last few years, it has become obvious that an individual’s Time Line with all the person’s history — his joys and fears, his happiness and sorrow, his loves and hates, his limiting and empowering decisions — is a major part of that person’s personality. Over the last few years, we found that, if we were able to intervene in a client’s Time Line therapeutically, we were able to assist the client to create seemingly miraculous changes in his life — changes that extended even to the deepest level of personality.

Models, such as Time Line Therapy®, are interesting devices. A model is a description or simulation of how something works. In essence a model is a blueprint or a map. Like a map, a model is not necessarily “true.” It is just a representation of reality. So, we are not necessarily looking for truth in our model, we are only attempting to offer a description of how a portion of the human personality works. Like a map, it is only a description of the territory; and the value of any map or a blueprint lies in the results that you can produce by using it. In retrospect, even after 5 years, this model still seems to be a major discovery.

From the time of Aristotle to William James to Freud and Jung to Milton Erickson, M.D., people interested in Psychology have been searching for a way to adequately describe the human experience of time. Time Line Therapy®, as a model, has the potential to not only make sense out of our temporal experience, but also to change our understanding of how negative emotions and limiting decisions affect us, as well as describing how to create a meaningful future for all time to come, because with Time Line Therapy® we now understand the human temporal experience and can change the basic elements that make up someone’s history.

Since 1988, thousands of people have been affected by the techniques of Time Line Therapy®. Hundreds of people have been trained in the techniques and use them daily. Thousands of others have attended the Secret of Creating Your Future® seminars given all over the world, and have seen dramatic changes in their lives. Today, there are institutes inEurope, Canada, Australia, Hong Kong, Brazil and the United States authorized to teach the techniques of Time Line Therapy®.

The Time Line Therapy® techniques are a relatively recent development. The idea of an individual having a means of knowing the difference between memories of the past, and the future, or having a “Time Line” is not. Aristotle was one of the first in our culture to mention the idea of a “Time Line” in Physics IV, for the Greeks had a clear idea of temporality. Our having a Time Line may be, at least in part, a result of the structure our language.


“Western minds represent time as a straight line upon which we stand with our gaze directed forward; before us we have the future and behind us the past. On this line we can unequivocally define all tenses by means of points. The present is the point on which we are standing , the future is found on some point in front of us, and in between lies the exact future; behind us lies the perfect, still farther back the imperfect, and farther yet the pluperfect. … The Greek language also has corresponding verb-forms which can be delineated in quite similar manner on a straight time-line. … According to Aristotle, therefore, we must represent time by the image of a line (more accurately: by the image of movement along a line), either a circular line … or a straight line.” [Hebrew, pp 124-6]


Time Line Therapy® has its roots in traditional psychological thinking, and is based on earlier models, which preceded it. William James, in Principles of Psychology, in 1890 says, “If the constitution of consciousness were that of a string of bead-like sensations all separate … we should be wholly incapable of acquiring experience. … Whether a highly developed practical life be possible under such conditions as these is more than doubtful …” He described the experience of time, “In short, the practically cognized present is no knife- edge, but a saddle-back with a certain breadth of its own on which we sit perched and from which we look in two directions in time. … Date in time corresponds to direction in space. … If we represent the actual time-stream of our thinking by an horizontal line, the thought of the stream or of any segment of its length, past, present, or to come, might be figured in a perpendicular raised upon the horizontal at a certain point.” He says, “Some things we date simply by tossing them into a past or future direction.” And so, “memory gets strewn with dated things — dated in the sense of being before or after each other. The date of a thing is a mere relation of before or after the present thing or some past or future thing.” [Principles, pp 396-413]


Time Line Therapy® also has its roots in the work of Milton Erickson, who until his death in 1980, was the world’s foremost Hypnotherapist. Erickson, almost single-handedly, brought hypnosis out of the closet, and made it possible for the American medical and psychiatric community to accept it as a “legitimate form of treatment.” In the early 1960’s Erickson was using an hypnotic technique which, remarkably, was quite like Time Line Therapy®.

“One hypnotic phenomenon can be used to induce another. The movie screen can be employed as an uncovering technique. The patient looks at it, sees his past … He can look at the screen, lose his own identity, and observe various traumatic experiences that occurred in his own life experience. …” The client can look at his past and his future in a non-threatening way: “… the patient saw himself at a later age; on another, at a still later age — all the way from five years of age on up to thirty-two. … Then he was allowed to set up another screen where he could see himself as he hoped to appear next year. Thus he was led to recognize what he wanted in his future, what was meaningful for him in that future. … That technique has been called pseudo- orientation into the future. Just as one can orient a patient back to the past, so one can project himself into the future in accordance with his own motivations and … desires.” [Practical, pp 342- 344]


Who are you if not your collection of memories? For almost 100 years, psychologists have agreed that our past experiences do determine who we are, and how we act. (Although the examination of memories has, in the last decade or two, fallen into disfavor among psychologists because they did have a reliable technique to affect the memories.) Memories are recorded and stored as we age and with time they have more and more influence on us. Our Time Line is the index to the memory encoding of the unconscious mind, and it is usually wholly unconscious.


In the context of Time Line Therapy®, the words “unconscious mind” are not intended to signify anything mysterious or unusual, simply the part of your mind of which you are not conscious, right now. Your unconscious mind is a very important part of you. Think about it for just a moment. Here is a part of you that runs your body; it makes your heart beat, causes the lymph system to circulate, your breathing to continue, your eyes to blink, your stomach to digest your food, and many other tasks that perhaps you had never even considered.

The first thing to appreciate is that your unconscious mind is the source of all learning, all behavior and all change. Let us look at each one of these individually:


Your unconscious mind is the part of you that learns, not your conscious mind. Now, you may have thought that you learned consciously in the past, and although your learning has to go through the conscious mind, it is your unconscious mind that remembers everything. Everything, once learned, resides in the unconscious mind.

Think about all the things you have ever learned. Until the subject was mentioned, how many of them did you remember consciously? Probably none! If you had to remember all the phone numbers you know consciously, there wouldn’t be enough room for anything else, would there? So all learning takes place at the unconscious level.

Think of all the phone numbers you have learned, and which you now know. For example, you know your home phone number, do you not? If you’d like to do this with me, please say it to yourself. Now before you were thinking of your home phone number, where was it? Obviously it was stored somewhere, of which you were not conscious — that is your unconscious mind — the part of your mind of which you are not conscious, right now. What’s important about that is that all your learning — everything you have ever learned — is stored in your unconscious mind.


I was approached by a student at one of the hypnosis seminars I teach.&127; He asked, “Can you make me move my arm unconsciously?” I asked the student if he had ever considered that he can’t move his hand consciously. I said, “Do you know how many muscles there are between the tip of your fingers and your shoulder blade? There are 159 muscles. So, you couldn’t move your hand consciously. You have to move it unconsciously. It’s not just your hand, either — all behavior is generated at the unconscious level. Think about walking. You just put one foot in front of the other, don’t you? When you do, however, you don’t think about it. You just do it. In fact if you think about walking, that thinking can be counter-productive. Thinking about walking is conscious thinking. The fact that it interferes with walking shows us that the behavior is generated unconsciously.

How about this, the last time you drove to work, how conscious of it were you? Do you remember the whole trip? Or do you remember none of it? If you want a real scare just look over at the person next to you on the freeway, the next time you drive somewhere. They too are probably unconscious.

One more example. You get on an elevator, punch a button (say 8) and the doors close. Your eyes go up, and you watch the floor numbers: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 … 6, and the doors open, and the person next to you gets out, and you follow. “Is this the 8th floor.” I do that all the time, I must admit.


Think of a bad habit you wanted to change in the past. Was it easy? Probably not. Most people find it hard to change a bad habit. For them it’s something that takes time. I remember in the 60’s when sideburns were long, and I used to play with mine all the time, and one day I said I’m not going to do that any more! But, you know, five minutes, and there I was again, playing with them.

If change was that easy, you could walk up to a friend who was being a bit of a jerk and say, “Um, excuse me, but you’re being a bit of a jerk! Would you please change?” And they would change. Right then — if change was conscious! In the real world, change isn’t always that easy. Many people go on doing the same old things over and over, year after year and they complain about it. If change isn’t that easy for us, it is simply because we aren’t fully in rapport with our unconscious mind. In the real world people are often not in rapport with the unconscious mind, and that is why change isn’t that easy for them.

Your unconscious mind would really like to be in rapport with your conscious mind. In fact your unconscious mind yearns for rapport, and looks up to your conscious mind like a 5 or 6 or 7 year old brother or sister might look up to you. It wants your direction and support, and it would like to&127; do what you asked if it only knew how. If you are not feeling like there is rapport between your conscious and unconscious mind, it may be because you were giving confusing messages to the conscious mind.

Let us look at this idea a little further: Your unconscious mind cannot process a negative in consciousness. It’s true. In fact, it’s also true for the conscious mind as well. Think about this. You cannot think about what you wish to not think about without thinking about it. Think about that. For example, if I said, “Don’t think about a blue tree,” what are you thinking about. unless you were semantically trained, you are probably thinking about a blue tree. Even though I asked you not to!!

Most of us go through our lives telling ourselves, “I don’t want to think about a blue tree. When you go in to see the boss, do you say, “I hope he doesn’t get angry like the last time.”? Or when starting out in a new relationship, do you say, “Gee, I hope I don’t get hurt.”? Or how about a salesperson going in to make a sale and saying, “I hope I don’t blow this sale.”?

Do you do that? If you do, it may be the wrong signal to be giving to your unconscious mind. If it is the wrong signal, it is because the unconscious mind cannot process a negative in consciousness. So, to facilitate communication between the conscious and the unconscious minds let us find out a little more about this part of us which is so important, and of which we are so little aware — the unconscious mind.

The Prime Directives of the Unconscious Mind:

The Prime Directives of the unconscious mind provide a framework for the context of doing Time Line Therapy® with yourself or others. The model of the Prime Directives gives us some powerful assumptions which structure our use of the tool of the techniques we will learn. The term Prime Directives means that the unconscious mind is “hard wired” (meaning that it comes from the factory this way) and is set-up to provide or to do the following:


The unconscious mind provides he coordination for the storage of memories. Research as far back as 1957 (the Penfield Study) indicates that everything that happens is recorded faithfully and stored as memory. You may remember that in 1957, they probed a woman’s brain with an electrode, and she remembered everything that happened during a birthday party when she was a very young child. She remembered the feel of the krynolin of her dress, the taste and smell of her birthday cake, how her mother and her friends looked, etc.., as if she were there. As a result of that study, neuro-physicists postulated in 1957 that everything that happens to us is stored in the brain in full detail. In 1960, Carl Pribram won the Nobel Prize for his theory that expanded the place of storage of memories from the brain to the entire body, when he postulated that memories were stored holographically in the nervous system. It is the unconscious mind that is responsible for the coordination of the storage of and for access to these memories.


The unconscious mind organizes all the memories which are stored in the nervous system — in the body. The way it organizes these memories is that it uses “indexes” to point to the stored memories and to allow for and to facilitate your access to these memories. Your Time Line is one such index, the organization of your values is another such index that the unconscious mind uses.


The unconscious mind is the domain of the emotions. Even though they are often felt consciously, emotions are not the domain of the conscious mind. They are generated by, maintained by, and are the responsibility of the unconscious mind.


Now, here is where some interesting paradoxical situations can begin to occur. The unconscious mind is also charged with the responsibility of repressing memories with unresolved negative emotion. The emphasis here is on “unresolved.” The memory will be repressed with the emotion intact until it can be resolved. The unresolved negative emotion can cause some repression of the content of the memory to the extent of the intensity of the emotion, and to the unresolvedness. (These repressed memories are visible in the Time Line as dark or missing areas.) The repressed negative emotions are trapped in the body, and in many cases can cause blockages to the flow of communication through the neural network pathways of the body.


Memories which have been repressed are then presented to release the trapped negative emotions. This is the next function which the unconscious mind is “supposed” to perform, and it is a function which can be a long term function. Supposed is in quotes because in a number of cases, and with disfavor from the conscious mind, the unconscious mind will stop presenting the memories for release and keep them repressed. If the conscious mind can, at the time of presentation of the memory, release the emotions by “rationalizing” (making rational, preserving the learnings) the memory can be cleared of the negative emotions.


The Unconscious Mind also has the option of keeping the memories repressed. In some cases this is what the unconscious mind does. This is a short term function, however, and in the long run the unconscious mind will continue to attempt to present the memories so that they can be released, because repressed emotions are just not good for the body. (See Prime Directive number 8.)


The unconscious mind has also been called the “body-mind” or the mind of the body, and in performing this function it provides the consciousness, and the direction for the functioning of the body.


The unconscious mind is also in charge of preserving the body. This means, other things being equal, that if you walk out to the street and step in front of a bus, your unconscious mind will jump you back out of the way, and you will be safe. In times of extreme danger, many people notice that the unconscious mind takes over, and the conscious mind is not at all involved at that moment.


This is not necessarily a Prime Directive as much as it is an instinct that is built in. The unconscious mind will enforce any morality which it has been taught and has come to believe is true. This Prime Directive is included, however, because it is so important in healing. If the Unconscious Mind thinks that you have been bad, then of course, you will have to be punished. In healing, then it is important to know if the unconscious mind feels as though it needs to punish you. The question might arise, “What kind of morality are we talking about?” We are talking about any kind of morality which the Unconscious Mind has been taught and which it believes. That is why there is honor even among thieves.


The unconscious mind likes to have direction from a conscious mind with which it is in rapport. If there is no rapport, the unconscious mind will not follow the orders or directions from the conscious mind. With rapport the unconscious mind will follow just about any direction from the conscious mind. Trust is important to develop in this context, because if the unconscious mind is in charge of our physical and many of our mental processes, rapport with it is a must.


As our sensory perceptions come in to the neurology from outside the body, they must pass through the unconscious mind before they become available as conscious perceptions. The unconscious mind is in charge of filtering the massive amount of data that comes in, and making it manageable for understanding by the conscious mind. You may have heard that one estimate is that we have approximately 2,000,000 bits of information coming in through all our sensory input channels. The unconscious mind filters these down to a manageable 7 plus or minus 2 chunks of information.


As the “manager” of the body, the unconscious mind also is in charge of the energy of the body. Most of the energy in the body is generated by the interaction of glucose with oxygen. Since the unconscious mind is in charge of the energy, it can be asked to increase the energy in the body for various purposes including weight loss and healing.


Some instincts are built-in at birth — such as the Fight or Flight response. Habits are cultivated over time. The unconscious mind is responsible for generating and maintaining both instincts and habits over time.


: When cultivating a habit it is a good idea to repeat it often until it is taken-over by the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind is really in an on-going “now” most of the time, and so needs a fair amount of repetition to build a habit.


The unconscious mind is directed to continually seek more and more. So the new car you just had to have, and you finally bought seemed like “just any old car” after a short period of time (say, three weeks), and perhaps you were prompted to wonder, “what’s next?”


The unconscious mind will function perfectly with a minimum of parts. In fact, the fewer parts the better. Since more parts means more possibility of inner conflict, and since each part cannot be expected to have the intention of the whole as its highest intention, the fewer parts the better. The most perfect functioning occurs as a whole integrated functioning unity.


The unconscious mind is symbolic. It is in many areas, pre- literate, so it creates and uses, and responds to symbols (thank you Carl Jung for first pointing this out to us). Much of what the unconscious mind gives us is symbolic. This does not mean that it is meaningless, quite the contrary, the symbols can be interpreted, and will have significant meaning.


The unconscious mind works on the principle of least effort, and that means it will do as little as it can get away with. This principle serves the unconscious mind well in energy conservation, but not necessarily in healing various symptoms. For example, if you are asking the unconscious mind to clear up certain symptoms, you must ask the unconscious mind when it will start and when it will finish the process, or you may find six months later the process is incomplete. When asked, “why?” The unconscious mind may simply say, “I haven’t started yet.”


Remember that old saying when you were a kid, “One finger’s pointing out away from you, but three are pointing back at you?” That is because the unconscious mind takes everything personally. The good news is that what you like about your friend, is you. The bad news is that what you dislike about your friend, is you. The saying in psychology is, “Perception is projection.” What you see is who you are. So think the best about everybody you meet. If you are practicing as a therapist, educator, or manager, especially, think the best about your clients or students — think that they are magnificent, and that they can and will change using Time Line Therapy®, and they will. Based on the work of George Estabrooks (1943) and Andre Weitzenhoffer (1957), that what the therapist (or educator, or manager) does not believe to be true will not be actualized by the client. If you believe that they can do anything, then they will. If you see your clients as magnificent they will be magnificent. The more good you see in your clients the more they will actualize that good for you, and for themselves. The more you do that, the more your own unconscious mind will feel good about you, and prosper. Honor and respect the unconscious mind. If you can, love the unconscious mind. You and your unconscious mind are going to be together for a long, long time, so you might as well get along well. If you can remember your magnificence you will be magnificent!


Finally, and we have already discussed this earlier, make sure you are telling your unconscious mind what to do, think, be; as opposed to telling it what not to do, think, be. Enough said..

Your Time Line is how your unconscious mind encodes and stores your memories. It’s how you know the difference between a past memory, and a future dream? Your Time Line is largely an unconscious process, and like remembering your home phone number, you may be more or less aware of it from time to time.

With the Time Line Therapy® techniques, we now have for the first time, a way to resolve significant events in a person’s past, which is in alignment with how the unconscious mind already operates. We also gain the ability to release the negative emotions in those memories easily and quickly, or at least in a reasonable amount of time. Obviously, the release of negative emotions in a substantial number of a person’s memories will have an impact on their behavior. Stop, and think about it for a moment – what would be the impact on you, if we had released all of the anger in your past memories, while preserving the learnings from those events or how about the sadness, fear, guilt or any other negative emotion.

Next, what if you could go back and re-do any old decision that you made in the past, and decide in a new way — a way that supported who you want to be now? Then, what if we could have every event in the past be reevaluated in such a way as to support the way you wanted to be now? With Time Line Therapy®, we also have the ability to reevaluate our past, and change any decision which limits us. To a certain extent our behavior is guided by the decisions that we’ve made in the past. Whether conscious or unconscious, these decisions affect our behavior in the present. Our decisions are stored in the Time Line, and through our Time Line we gain access to them.

Finally, what if you had a reliable way to create your future the way you wanted it, and actually have that thing or event happen? The processes for creating your future are as powerful as the processes for releasing negative emotions, and clearing out limiting decisions.

These three techniques comprise the major techniques of Time Line Therapy® as it is taught today, which we herewith present to you for your consideration. In using these techniques, you are accepting the role of a pioneer in the freeing of the human spirit from the bonds of the negative emotions and limiting decisions, and showing people how to create their futures.

What Negative Emotions Do to Us:

First, negative emotions block the flow of energy in the body.  The latest thinking in quantum biology indicates that emotions trapped in the body have the real possibility of creating functional blockages in the neurology, the nervous system, so trapped emotions could actually cause the brain to send wrong signals to the various organs in the body, or perhaps no signals at all!  That means that trapped emotions in the body, which we haven’t let go of, can be not only the source of discomfort, but also the source of other physical problems like heart attack.

Ten years ago, the Journal of the American Medical Association acknowledged that negative emotions can play a role in dis-ease.  In a 30-year retrospective study of Type-A behavior, it was pointed out that the major contributing factor was anger.  In the original study, done 30 years ago, Type-A Behavior was described as the “Hard-driving executive, working long hours, competitive, stressed out and angry.  Well, this recent study indicated that it’s not the long hours, it’s not the stress, it’s not the hard work, it’s not the competition, it’s the anger that causes heart attack.

Second, negative emotions block the flow of success and keep us from achieving our goals. How many times has anger gotten in your way when you wanted to communicate something to a friend, co-worker or even worse, a close family member? Probably too often!

Third, they  feel terrible.   Think about a time when you felt angry in the past.  Did you say to yourself, “Oh Gee, this feels great…I hope I can continue to feel this way all day.”  No, of course not!

In fact, we’ll usually do anything to get out of feeling the sensations of a negative emotion.  The last time someone broke your heart and you felt sad, did you say “Oh Gee, this sadness feels great.  I hope no joy comes along to break up this feeling of sadness, cause it feels so good”  Of course not!  You probably will do anything to get away from the feeling including sleep, immerse yourself in work, exercise, go to a movie, talk to a friend — anything to keep from feeling the bad feelings.  That’s why people smoke, drink, overeat, abuse others, take drugs, are co-dependent, and so much more.  They do it because they want to get away from the terrible feelings of negative emotions.

The Unconscious Mind and Negative Emotions:

Negative Emotions are stored at the unconscious Level—in the Unconscious Mind. Your Unconscious Mind doesn’t really want them there because they are not good for you!  You need to know that your Unconscious Mind is a wonderful, loving, caring part of your entire being, and it really loves you.  It looks up to you like a younger brother or sister, who might be age 5, 6 or 7.  Your Unconscious Mind really loves you and wants to do what you ask it to do.  The trouble is that for all these years you haven’t asked it to do anything, or if you have, you probably didn’t ask it in a way that would produce results.

Instead, you’ve probably suggested most things to your Conscious Mind, the part of your mind that you’re aware of, and its function is not necessarily about wanting to please you and do what you ask it to.  Also, the Unconscious Mind really responds to praise and acknowledgement, just like we do and you probably haven’t known how to give it that acknowledgement either.  In a Time Line Therapy™ session you’ll learn how to become a master communicator with your Unconscious Mind.

Your Unconscious Mind is the part of you that commands your heart to beat, 60 or 70 times a minute, to circulates your blood, to breathe, etc.   It circulates your lymph system, it causes your immune system to work.  It does all of that and a thousand times more.  So if it can do these miraculous things so automatically, do you really think helping you to create things you want in your life would be difficult for it?  Of course not.  Once you learn how to communicate with your Unconscious Mind…it will automatically help you create the future that you want again and again and again.

Because if your Unconscious Mind runs your body, and it does,  and if your Unconscious Mind is in charge of your memories, and it is, and in charge of all your behavior and all of your learning, and all change, wouldn’t that be a good part of you to get to know?  It would be wouldn’t it?

I know it’s possible that you might think that the Unconscious Mind is evil, dirty or nasty, and that is only possible if…can you understand that if you have a lot of unresolved negative emotions lurking about in your Unconscious Mind, that it would seem that your Unconscious Mind was not good.  However, because  the Unconscious Mind has the responsibility  of having to release the negative emotions and to get rid of the blocks in the nervous system, the Unconscious Mind has to continually bring up that stuff for you to release, you maybe could buy into the notion that the Unconscious Mind isn’t particularly friendly to you.  But the fact is that the minute you know how to let go of all that stuff, it won’t have to keep reminding you, by bringing up negative emotions.  They’ll be gone.  And you’ll be the master of your own mind, instead of it being your master.

Time Line Therapy™ Technique for Letting Go of a Negative Emotion:

With Time Line Therapy™ Techniques, you are able to go back in time along your Time Line and eliminate those negative emotions, and limiting decisions that are attached to specific memories that are hindering you in the present you will be able to eliminate any emotion from the past and create anything you want in your future.  That it is possible for us to clear out all our anger from the past is the next secret.

Like many people, you might be asking, why do we care about something that happened to us in the past, and why would I need to let  it go?  After all it is in the past, isn’t it?  And if it’s in the past, doesn’t that mean it’s gone?  Here’s a simple test using the emotion of anger.

Remember an event from your past about which you felt angry.  Maybe a time when a bully pushed you out of the lunch line at school, or maybe when your best friend betrayed you or when a co-worker got a raise and you didn’t?  Or when your kids left the house in a mess, or when you got cut off on the freeway. As you think of it now, is the feeling of anger associated with that memory. Do you remember feeling angry about it at the time.  If you can remember feeling anger, that anger is as much a part of you now as it was then…because it was never cleared. It resides in your memory bank as something that made you angry. If it can still be remembered with anger in the present, then it does have an effect on what and how your future comes about.  And certainly in the case of anger, can certainly interfere with creating a happy future.  Why, because if we live our present day lives with the extra baggage of unresolved negative events from our past, there’s not much room to create a happy future.

Picture you Unconscious Mind like you would a closet. If your closet hasn’t been cleaned out in awhile and is filled to capacity with old clothes that you never got rid of…is there room in that closet for beautiful new clothes…probably not – only if you empty out some of the old things and make space for the new ones. Your Unconscious Mind is similar. If it’s filled up with negative emotions from years and years of not having life turn out totally the way you wanted it to…there’s not much room for a happy wonderful future because it’s still filled withy the negative impressions of the past.  So in order to make room for the good things we want…we first must get rid of the bad and make room for the good.

Also, the problem with unresolved negative emotions is that they block us from having what we want in the future, by continually reminding us of times in our lives when things weren’t the way we wanted them to be.

Now what about anger.  Think of all the times anger gets in your way.  How many times in the last week have you been angry?  When you think of it, maybe more than you thought…I mean as you think about it.  The question is, where and when do we get angry.  Some people get angry on the freeway.  You know, driving down the freeway.  I mean who could help it right.  When you’re driving down the freeway, how many jerks are there in front of you.  And when that freeway gets all jammed up, do you boil.  Does your blood boil?

How about in relationships?  How many times does your sadness get in the way in your relationships?  Perhaps with your spouse, or the person you are living with.  How many times a week does anger get in the way of adequate or meaningful communication.  Or, even get in the way of the process of relating, or being able to be friends with the person you are living with.  How many times does fear or guilt come up on a regular basis for you.  Perhaps it even comes up with your friends.  I know some folks who regularly experience fear with their friends.  A lot of times, they’ll be just hanging out, and all of a sudden something that one friend  says will just make them afraid.

How many times does anger get in your way with your kids. Think about your kids for a minute.  You know, the thing about kids  is that they know all of our buttons to push.  I think they were brought up that way.  But anyway, kids know exactly what button to push to just get your goat and set you off.  Which I really think is their purpose.  So, how many times do your kids set you off? How many times does anger get in the way of you having a meaningful relationship with your kids.  How much better would you be without anger toward your kids? And, in business, how often during a given week are you feeling angry.

Well, you don’t have to learn to live with it.  You don’t have to learn to keep it under control you don’t have to stuff it.  Time Line Therapy™ is about letting go of emotions from the past. The process is easy and simple and even a 5 year old can do it.

Limiting decisions we made in the past often times limit us and keep us from being able to create the future being the way we say we want it.  Did you ever make a limiting decision?   Maybe in the past you decided that it wasn’t OK for you to feel good about yourself, or not OK for you to experience your magnificence.  Maybe sometime in the past you decided that it wasn’t OK for you to be brilliant, or not OK for you to express yourself clearly, or not OK for you to be able to have good relationships…or maybe in the past you decided that you couldn’t have good relationships — with your children, or with the opposite sex.

Karen used to ask, “Why does this always happen to me?”  And of course it did happen to her!!  Did you decide in the past that something always had to happen to you? But what we find is that after changing the decision that things are different.

We do this all the time.  Have you ever said, “I can’t find the car keys.” And then someone walked up, and said, “Here they are right under your nose.”  As you said that you couldn’t find the keys, you gave instructions to your unconscious mind to ignore the keys.  So even if the keys were right under your nose, you wouldn’t find them. Continued